My Riding &Training. My Horses. The lesson that changed everything!

– I thought I’d take the
opportunity today while I’m warming my horse up to just talk a
little bit about my journey in my horsemanship and the
meaning that it has had to me. I grew up on a horse farm and my parents always had horses ever
since I can remember. And I, by the age of 16, had a great horse that I was doing quite a
bit of barrel racing on, and on that same horse
dressage and eventing. And right in there I was also,
I had my teaching lessons so I had a pretty good
school horse program going. And I was giving horse camps in the summer with my now husband. And it was, I thought I
was doing pretty good, and my horses I thought were pretty good. And then I had a thoroughbred
that came into my life. And he was unstarted and a little bit difficult, but a good horse overall. And at that time, I was using some of the ideas that John Lyons uses. I was also exposed to
Parelli and using some of those ideas when I was
working with my horses. And I was getting good results. My barrel horse eventually, probably when I was 16 or 17, I was
riding him bridleless. I could do flying lead
changes and jump jumps and do all sorts of fun
stuff bridleless on him. So I thought I was doing pretty good. So fast forward, maybe I was
17 or 18, I was taking a clinic with a gal that my parents
had had to the farm, and we were just working on the ground. And this thoroughbred
that I was working with and training was now started under saddle, and I thought doing reasonably well. We were working on just
directing the horse’s focus. And it was not a new concept to me, but it was a concept that I
didn’t quite understand in the depth, we’re going up a
hill here, he wants to trot, I didn’t quite understand in the depth of that I now understand. And she was watching me and she came over, and she actually came over
and she showed me, excuse me, told me to direct his
focus one way or the other. And so I did it, and it wasn’t great. He didn’t follow my feel all that well. And she kind of scowled
and shook her head. I was a little kind of, I don’t know, unsure and nervous kind
of because I was a little on the spot and I wasn’t quite
sure what I’d done wrong. She then took a hold of my horse, and she said you saw what happened, right? I said well, yeah, I saw what happened. And she took ahold of my horse and did a couple really little things. Then I watched my horse come to life. His ears perked up on her, his
complete expression changed, his eye got really bright, and she said this is what I’m looking for. I thought okay, easy. And she handed the lead rope back to me, and she said now you do it. And I watched the same response
that I had gotten previously where I took my horse’s attention
and I wanted to direct it to the right let’s say, and
his eyes kind of glazed over, he got a dead expression in his face, and he did not perk up on me or anything close to what she had. And then I got it and I was pretty humbled because although I was good at training my horses, it
was not what I wanted. It was training, not communicating. And I was quite humbled at that time. And I was super embarrassed
because I had a high level of respect for this lady,
and I wanted an affirmation on how good I was doing with my horses. Instead I found out that I
wasn’t doing good at all. And what I was doing with my horses had no meaning to them
at a spiritual level. And my hope with the
audio lessons is to start to convey the differences between training a horse and
communicating to them. Because when you’re communicating,
and actually not to them, but with them, it brings
about a whole nother level of relationship, and it’s one that actually means something to the horse. And then you start to kind
of find these little places in your life everywhere
where you start to realize how you can communicate with
your horses and communicate with others by really feeling for them and feeling for what’s going
on internally with them. It changed the way I
related to my students. And it also has made a
huge difference in how I relate to my children
now that I’m a parent. And it’s pretty deep
and it’s really special. As we move forward, I
think some of you are already getting the audio
lesson on riding the mind. And I would love to hear your
feedback because I think it’s going to give you a good feel
for communication and taking consideration of where your
horse is today, and working with the inside of the
horse not the outside. You’re going to start to see some changes in the way your horse looks at you. Now when I reach down
the rope for my horses, what I’m looking to do is engage them in a conversation, not
tell them what to do. So instead of thinking of
a stimulus and then getting a response off of that stimulus
and then having a reward, it’s something that’s much
deeper and much more meaningful. And when I reach down the
rope, my horse perks up, and their eyes get bright,
and they look at me like hey, friend, what are
we going to do today? And that’s the best and
that’s what it’s all about no matter what discipline you ride. Okay, I hope you enjoy your
audio lesson on riding the mind. And please let me know what
your thoughts are on it. Alright, happy trails, have a great day.

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